Sexsomnia

What is sexsomnia?

Sexsomnia, or sleep sex, is a rare condition where a person engages in sexual activity during sleep. This can involve masturbation, or initiating sexual contact with a partner.

Sexsomnia is a sleep disorder just like sleep talking or sleep walking and sufferers will often have experienced one of these related disorders. Personally, I often sleep talk and I have been known to sleep walk on rare occasions, increasingly when under the influence of alcohol.

When does sexsomnia occur?

In my personal experience, I can initiate ‘sleep sex’ with my partner every couple of months. Although this can vary greatly between sufferers. I can go months without a single sleep sex incident, or it may happen twice in a week. It also doesn’t seem to matter whether I had already had sex that very night.

How can I stop sexsomnia?

There is no known cure for sexsomnia. Doctors may prescribe drugs which sedate the sufferer to a degree, but these often have side effects such as drowsiness. I would not recommend taking drugs for this condition unless you experience particularly strong episodes and there is no other option.

For most people, the worst effect of sleep sex is often embarassment between the sufferer and their partner. This needn’t be the case, as long as you talk it through with them and be honest with each other. There’s nothing weird about it, it’s just like sleep talking. Fortunately, my partner is very accepting and is happier about my condition than I am! Also, my occurences are relatively infrequent.

If you want to talk to someone about your Sexsomnia, feel free to email me using the Contact form.

347 Responses to “Sexsomnia”

  1. Anon Says:

    I think I may have this. I have woken up several times in the past in the middle of it all with my partner. but on Saturday night after going to the pub for a few hours ( literally had only 3 drinks and was home by 11). it happened again but I wasn’t as friendly. She hasn’t been able to look me in the eye all day and I am so discussed and ashamed because that isn’t who I am but it still happened. I’m seeing a gp in the morning but I think I just lost my best friend. It’s not ok to let it happen because it can go to far. Imagine going to bed one night with the love of your life and the next day have her looking at you like a monster and you can’t remember a thing. All you want yo do is hold her because she is hurting so bad, but you can’t because in her eyes it happened it was real for her and your body did that.I’m glad to know that I’m not alone I just wished I looked into this before now. I just wish I knew before…

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  2. Liam Says:

    Right another little update:-

    I’ve spoken to some NLP people and they believe that I would be better off seeing a Phyco sex therapist. So I’ve been back to see my GP who I asked to refer me to a local clinic to try and help find an underlined reason as to why this is happening. They have also prescribed me with 2mg Melatonin tablets to help me drift off to a better sleep (Melatonin is a natural hormone made by your body’s pineal (pih-knee-uhl) gland.)

    I take 1 per night , 30 mins before I intend to go to sleep. I’ve stopped using my phone in bed and the first few nights have been good, though last night I had an episode.

    My advice to anyone suffering with this is to not be ashamed to talk to people about this especially your DR / GP and partner. Otherwise this could ruin your life.

    More info to come as i go through it 🙂

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  3. Alex Says:

    I belive my husband my suffer from this. There are times at night where he will initiate sex. His demeanor is very assertive and different then when we have sex at other times. He does wake up when I start to be active back with him. Sometimes he will fondle me and then just stop and fall back into a deep sleep. He won’t remember in the morning when I tell him either. We have talked about it and he says he always assumes it’s me waking him up for sex but it’s really him initiating. He also can have very angry dreams. He will curse people out in his sleep and has even tried punching the air in his sleep. I got a knee to the back one time.

    For the most part I am fine with it. I don’t mind having sex with my husband. But I’m frightened about him doing it if our kids are in bed with us or something.

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  5. Josh Says:

    Hi, I’m suffering more and more with sexomnia, and really struggling to pin down a trigger. I work shifts which alternate weekly, and only on the late shift 2-12 do I act out. Could lack of proper rest be causing this issue?

    My girlfriend isn’t too bothered about my nighttime fondling but it really embarrasses me. I have no idea which avenue to explore to find a cure.

    Any help or advice would be great.

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  6. Liam Says:

    Josh:
    Hi, I’m suffering more and more with sexomnia, and really struggling to pin down a trigger. I work shifts which alternate weekly, and only on the late shift 2-12 do I act out. Could lack of proper rest be causing this issue?

    My girlfriend isn’t too bothered about my nighttime fondling but it really embarrasses me. I have no idea which avenue to explore to find a cure.

    Any help or advice would be great.

    Hi Josh, I’ve been dealing with this for around 7 years now and for me there doesn’t seem to be a trigger as such other than my wife moving or touching me that sets me off. Although I’ve been taking melatonin tablets for the last 2 weeks to help ease me into a deep sleep, it still hasn’t effected my episodes during the night. Stress and other things can make the episodes worse I’ve found over the years so try not to stess about it to much before bed.

    Failing that try sleeping away from her the night you do the 12-2 shift then you can be sure that you won’t be effecting her during the night.

    All the best Liam.

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  8. Sarah Says:

    My 24 year old son is suffering from sexsomnia and its totally ruined his relationship with his girlfriend . It has happened 3 times in this relationship and has happened in his previous one . His girlfriend woke up to it after she started to enjoy it while sleeping . It freaked her out . There was no penetration only fingering . He has tried to explain to her that it doesnt happen all the time and he doesnt know why it happens for. He wants to see a counciller or doctor because she thinks its a form of sleep rape because theres no consent given . He keeps telling her its not because hes asleep and doesnt know hes doing it . Please help as im not sure what else to do .

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  9. Sam Says:

    Hello,

    Firstly I suffer from sleep apnea, where I often wake up gasping for breath, I often snore and always talk in my sleep, my dad has a history of acting out in his sleep I have groped my gf in her sleep and on a few occasion woke up to us having foreplay

    My story is slightly different to most of the stories on here, where I do have a few seconds memory of the episode but nothing before and nothing after.

    It was approximately 5am and I had been drinking

    I was lying down on a couch with a girl in front of me where I have a memory of touching her in a very confused state for approximately a few seconds.i don’t remember it staring or ending

    I was wondering if anyone could help me as I can’t help but feel guilty for touching her because I have a memory of doing so and was wondering if there was anyone else in a similar position

    Thanks

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  10. Rennie Says:

    Hi all,
    Myself, like many other people in this post, is the partner of the sexomnia sufferer. People on this post have said it is a form of rape, as there is no verbal consent given. I can see why people would see it that way who have not had these experiences themselves. But take it from someone who has experienced it first hand.
    My Hubby-to-be has been in prison for the past 11 months and when he was at home, had regular sexomnia ‘episodes’. Around once or twice a week. Usually triggered by alcohol, drug abuse or often when we’d had a huge fall out. His subconscience trying to make it up to me I always thought.

    They were never in any way aggressive, he was actually quite the opposite of who I knew him to be. He’s a very macho man and has never shown his emotions or feelings to anyone, least of all his own missus! But during his sleep sex episodes, he was always very passionate and, for want of a better word, attentive. His episodes have never concerned either of us and we have actually, on several occasions, laughed and joked about it.

    It’s not his fault he does what he does. He often walks and talks in his sleep and jumps out of bed shouting at… Someone…? He never remembers it and jokes about it all the time. A more serious case of his sleep walking/ talking is when he woke me up shouting, telling me to get out. He was convinced he’d found me in bed with another man. (Baring in mind, he’d woke me up from sleeping next to him).
    He had convinced himself that a bad dream he’d had, was reality and once I’d calmed him down a little he realised what was going on. He then drew a knife from beside him and told me he was so sure I’d cheated on him that he was about to cut my head off in the dream. He’d decided to wake me up and kick me out instead. Lucky me eh? He then told me he’d killed someone and put them in our shed. He was very convinced of this too and had me go out to the shed in the middle of the night with a torch to check. Obviously he hadn’t but he was so shaken up, he didn’t sleep for the rest of the night and was violently vomiting and shaking like a leaf. Just goes to show how these things can affect people and their partners. For several nights and days after that, he kept himself awake as he was too frightened to fall asleep in case he hurt me. This only made his sexomnia worse when he did eventually sleep. He’d wake me up two or three times a night. He’d grab me, put me where he wanted me and crack on. I didn’t mind really because I knew why it was happening, sleep deprivation. I’d never in a million years class it as rape but I can see why people could misinterpret these events of sleep sex as something they’re not.

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  11. Zavien Says:

    I have sexomnia and a sex addiction it’s all I think about my wife also has sexomnia but claims she doesn’t ever want or think about sex it’s making life difficult as I will not cheat we have 2 boys together so I will not leave her either what should I do we’re only doing it mayby once a month

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  12. kelly Says:

    i am a partner of someone who suffers with this only its more complaicated,back in 2011 i used to have my younger sister staying around my house she would sleep on the floor next to my bed she was 12 at the time and my partner had apperntly touched her it went no further then touching however this happend on more then one occasion and my sister had told my mum however i wasnt told anything about it untill 3 years later and by this time i had children with my partner and it only came out when my brothers girfeind and hin stayed at my house again on the floor next to the bed and he done it to her so then all my family told me about it all. we went docs etc and he went to a sleep clinic where they said he suffers with sexsomina howver as i have children i had to have social involved and this has resulted in me having to have alarms on our bedroom doors so i know my partner doesnt venture into thier room hoever everytimes hes done something to someone its been while hes in bed and just leaned over.he used to do it to me and he could never remeber the next day but i thought nothing of it at the time. now im finding it so hard having alarms on my childrens doors i feel like such a bad mother what do i do? will it effect thier life when they want friend etcs over they are only 3 and 4 at the moment please help

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  13. Suraj Says:

    I have masturbation in sleep in allways after 2 days.
    It was started in February how i stop it
    Please tell

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  14. Charlie Says:

    Hi all. I recently figured out my wife is suffering from this. For us luckily she only touches herself. However when I noticed this the first time 3 months ago I thought she was just having a time of her own at night… A LOT. So after listening and investigating this I figured there was no way she was asleep because of the regular noises like sniffing a runny nose and clearing her throat. So I started to feel like she was lying to me about her libido being lower (since the birth of our child 4 years ago) and that she never masturbated on her own. We do have a sex life with some struggles. So I decided to confront her about this during good times knowing that if I waited till times were not so good I would defiantly use it in a bad way. Well as all of you know “they have no idea.” So as you can imagine she thought (thinks) I was (am) completely crazy. Luckily it only lasted a day of anger. Although she still doesn’t believe me I am ok with that for now. I mean she cant help it obviously, and it’s not hurting me or anyone else so all I can do is let it go as long as it stays that way. I am thankful for everyone here for sharing your stories. It does help knowing your not alone… Oh and to those who think that your spouse must know what’s they are doing? Better to ask some thought out questions first to determine this rather than simply accusing them of lying to you. I am AWESOME the day after a disaster. Just sayin.

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  15. Nicole Says:

    Please help me! Just this week it has been brought to my attention that I apparently masturbate in middle of the night. However, I honestly have no memory of doing anything. My fiancé set up some cameras to see what exactly might be going on ( with my approval as well because I feel like a freakin nut job ). The other night caught myself asleep and fingering myself. This image literally scares the hell out of me because I don’t remember it. If this is sexomnia, why is it just recently happening? What do I do? My fiancé now feels like it’s his fault that he isn’t pleasing my sexual needs which is so far from being true. He has always satisfied me and I am always sexually aroused by him. How do we cope with this? I don’t want this to cause a problem like it almost did when he first approached me about what he heard and witnessed one night. I need help because I feel like I’m loosing my mind. We need help in how to deal with this. Please.

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  16. Kerry Fanneran Says:

    Hi there,

    I hope you don’t mind me posting.
    I am a UK TV Producer making a new series about people suffering with sleep disorders, and we are particularly looking to hear from people with Sexsomnia.

    If this is of interest to anyone, it would be great for them to get in touch.
    My email is Kerry@7wonder.co.uk

    Thanks for your time!
    Kind Regards

    Kerry

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  17. J Says:

    I came to this site hoping to find help but most of the responses seem to have the solution of simply educating your partner.

    I happen to be the partner of someone with this and I’m barely getting any sleep due to having to constantly wake up fighting. I wake up scared and in pain, I don’t need “educating” so that I can sympathise. I’m being attacked and I don’t know what to do. I can’t blame him as he doesn’t even know it’s happening but there seems to be no cure.

    We will work out this our own way I’m sure but please, I beg you, stop telling people that are living in fear of being accidently raped every night that they need to be more understanding, it’s very very scary.

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  18. Tbo Says:

    My wife started doing this about a year ago. She masturbates several times a night usually stopping with a big “twitch” or moan. 30 minutes later she will be back at it. She is unaware and didn’t believe me when I said something about it. This happens almost every night. On the extreme nights I wake her and tell her to use her toy. She normally does and sleeps thru the night after. Her actions are only bother sum when I can’t sleep, otherwise I let her do her thing

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  19. Char Says:

    I have had this for about a year now, it’s been so frustrating but I’m lucky as my bf is very open and understanding. I have tried so many things and I have finally found some things that do help…. First off we have separate duvets, I sleep on top of half and have the other over me separating the two of us so we don’t physically touch during the night. To be on the extra safe side you could top and tail in bed, I do that, although I will say it takes some getting used to. Also as I’m in bed, I turn all the lights off and take some deep breaths, when its scilent, I can concentrate on my breathing exersises which I think reduces stress. Although These tips help, they don’t completely stop it… But we have gone from having 5 episodes a week to maybe 1 every two weeks, really does help me, I know everyone is different but maybe you could try these out? I don’t usually post on anything but just thought I would share these tips which reduced the chances of it happening

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  22. Lauren Says:

    My boyfriend has sexomnia but has never had any episode whilst sharing a bed with me. He stayed at his friends house a few nights ago and ended up having sex with her in his sleep. I am so hurt and confused, I don’t know what to do. Has anyone got any advice for me?! Thanks

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  29. Nicholas Says:

    I need help with this. My wife says I’ve been fondling her and initiating sex while in asleep. Shes been swearing I’m awake and I don’t remember anything. In our most recent episode I even moved a nightstand table. I feel horrible because my wife feels violated and I’m so ashamed.

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  30. J Says:

    Hi, after reading most of these posts it has made it become more real and clearer. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 6 years and a few years ago we had a really big argument because he thought he caught me masterbating in bed which I denied, I have never been one to masterbate as me and my boyfriend are happy and have a good sex life, since that argument we have argued many more and he says that he can hear the bed shaking and me making deep moans, it physically makes me feel sick that I don’t realise that I am doing it and I feel so low in myself like I don’t even know who I am anymore. My boyfriend is quite understanding as I found out that it is sexsomnia. I am scared to stay round my friends houses as I am unaware of what I could do. I used to sleep talk a lot and twitch in my sleep and also I can’t remember the last time I had a proper night sleep where I slept the whole way through. I just don’t know what to do, I’m scared to sleep next to my boyfriend as I feel like I can’t control myself. I will only touch myself and not him. Please if anyone has any advice I will really appreciate it. Thank you

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  31. krizhnan Says:

    Hi, some times it feels awkard that when getting up from sleep ,you feel wetting places near to penis.yes i am also a sexomanic.My question is how to control this condition without help of any medicines.Is meditation is good for controlling this??My marriage is in 5 months so please help me.

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  32. chris Says:

    S:
    My boyfriend has sexomnia, but it’s not really a big problem. On rare occasions he’s gone through a complete intercourse without waking up at all, but mostly he wakes up disorientated in the last stages or before it gets to intercourse. Only once have I not woken up, but noticed that we have been having sex while sleeping.
    Luckily I don’t find it offensive, mostly fun, and only mildly annoying if I’m very tired and he wakes me up with his grinding and rubbing against me.
    Once it actually smoothed things out between us, as I was ovulating and he was too tired to try getting me pregnant and we had an argument about it. But in the night he had a sexomnia incident and did the job anyway, which made us both really relieved and happy.
    When he starts touching me and rubbing against me when sleeping his breathing is heavy and he’s more sweaty than when he’s awake. That’s how I know that it’s an sexomnia incident, in the beginning I thought he was awake, but now I can easily tell the difference. Actually he’s more determined, forceful and intense when sleeping, not the same as sex when awake. I can fight him of if I really don’t want to, but he’s very determined when sleeping.

    No doctors has taken this seriously or even heard about the condition. Which is annoying and degrading. When we mention it they look at us as if we’re perverts or just want to talk about our sex life and it makes us feel like freaks.
    But since he also has nightmares, trash around in his sleep and wakes up several times during the night, it’s relevant to find out if it can be treated, so of course we mention all the sleep-problems including sexomnia. He is always tired from lack of continuous sleep. But the taboo is hindering being taken seriously.

    As mentioned I don’t mind the “spontaneous night-sex” even if he often wakes up and jumps out of bed in the middle of it, but I do want him to get proper sleep.

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  33. chris Says:

    My partner thinks I’m sick when it
    Happens even though I’ve told her
    I only wake up half way through
    Inter course and that I don’t know
    What’s going on because I’m asleep
    I don’t understand why she thinks that
    of me because I’m a loving dad to 3 boys
    I haven’t got a harmful bone in my body
    I’ve never hurt anyone,what’s going on in
    Her head I can totally understand how
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    She understand its not a conscious thing.
    Help me.

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  34. Harry Says:

    I suffer from sexsomnia (infrequent), but found out in the most horrific way. I hurt my best friend. I turned myself in, and willingly went through two investigations, in which they had evidence from an honest police interview lasting at least a couple of hours, though it seemed like forever, and yet they dropped all charges in both cases. This is not the same as an innocent verdict, or even a not guilty verdict. My former friend has said she is willing to believe me, but her actions say otherwise. I have lost contact with her, and I feel that’s fair. Is there anyway to feel sane or safe ever again?

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  35. Mel Says:

    I’m fairly certain my boyfriend has this; I’ve woken up to him touching me several times in the past week alone, but when I roll over to face him, he’s clearly asleep, even snoring. Last night was probably the furthest it’s gone, he woke up 30 seconds into him guiding my hand around him. When we’re both conscious I have ths higher sex drive so i don’t mind being woken up by this…but he’s so convinced he doesn’t have it I don’t want him to think I’m lying and trying to start things. Is there any way to prove it to him?

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  36. Rachel Mlota Says:

    Hi everyone,

    I’m writing from NTU, located in Nottingham (England).

    I read about sexsomnia in a novel and ever since I have been researching it. I feel it is not talked about enough and so people, as I have seen on this site, are unaware it is even a real condition for a while until they really research it.

    I have decided to do a project where I inform people about the condition through a documentary. My desired effect is to bring sexsomnia to people’s attention and evoke sensitivity to it. Hopefully with more general awareness more research can be put into finding a cure.

    But to me the most important thing is to make people aware so that they don’t feel weird about having sexsomnia.

    If you are located in the UK please contact me on 07429901662 or email rachel.mlota@gmail.com. I would like to have a confidential chat with anyone who lives with sexsomnia or has a partner/loved one with it.

    By contacting me you will not be forced to necessarily appear in my project but I would like to still chat.

    I look forward to hearing from you,

    Best Regards,

    Rachel

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  37. Hailey Says:

    I have always wondered why….

    As a teen, i was an insomniac. I would probably sleep 20 hours a week or less.
    I was also always masturbating in my sleep. I would wake to an orgasm, or my hands in my panties…but I thought that was just teenager stuff.
    Fast forward to my 20s and the sleep talking and night terrors start. I am often jolted awake by my husband being jolted awake because Ive grabbed his penis or have been rubbing on him heavily, usually one of us just rolls over the other way and we forget it happened.
    Tonight though, I woke up to a very angry husband, saying I tried to put my finger in him. We’ve never even done anything like that awake! So I googled it and learned about all of these sleeping disorders and sexsomnia… this is crazy guys.
    I didnt know there were so many sleeping problems and that they are all connected. What do you do about something like this? No way am I taking a seditive…used to take them for waking anxiety and hated the side effects….help?

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  38. Janine Says:

    Lilly:
    Hi all,

    I’ve only just become aware that sexomnia is a real condition.I thought I was just going nuts!

    For me, my sexomnia started around four and a half months ago. I’m fairly sure that what triggered it was a particularly nasty streak of insomnia. At my worst, I was down to around three and a half hours sleep a night. I’m up to around six hours now, but with not being able to get any REM sleep, I’m constantly tired, which just perpetuates the problem.

    After reading everyone’s accounts of their episodes, I’m almost ashamed to say that mine are an every night occurance. In the four and a half months it’s been going on, there have only been two or three nights where I didn’t grope my poor husband enough to wake him up. On the upside, apparently I give a pretty mean handjob in my sleep!

    Although I’m yet to actually engage in intercourse during an episode, hubby says that I grope him, and insist that he returns the favour. One night, he decided to try to just push me away to see what would happen. I punched him in the face. He hasn’t tried to do that again, lol.

    The worst part of my condition is the sleep talking. I talk a lot, apparently. Which in of itself isn’t a problem. But, according to hubby, I’m declaring my undying love for another man. Talk about awkward! Lucky for me, hubby is understanding.

    I haven’t sought any help, at least not from ‘professionals’. At the moment it’s not causing me any grief, and to be frank, hubby loves it.What my research has shown me, though, is that sleep deprevation makes the ‘problem’ worse.And because episodes occur during REM sleep, we don’t get a proper night’s sleep, so we suffer further sleep deprivation, which just perpetuates the ‘problem’.

    So…what I’m trying to do is have an afternoon nap each day to combat the sleep deprivation, and hopefully that will slow down the episodes of sexomnia.That’s the plan, anyway!

    It’s been so good to read everyone else’s accounts, and to know that I’m not the only person who goes through this. Although it seems I’m one of the minority who make it a nightly occurance. Oh, and I never wake up, and I never remember my episodes.I’m seriously considering setting up a camcorder so I can see what the hell is going on during the night!I’d love to know!

    I know your comment is old, but wondering how your situation has been. I am an unfortunate one who suffers from this nightly and it is about to destroy my marriage.

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  39. Janine Says:

    J:
    Hi, after reading most of these posts it has made it become more real and clearer. I have been with my boyfriend for nearly 6 years and a few years ago we had a really big argument because he thought he caught me masterbating in bed which I denied, I have never been one to masterbate as me and my boyfriend are happy and have a good sex life, since that argument we have argued many more and he says that he can hear the bed shaking and me making deep moans, it physically makes me feel sick that I don’t realise that I am doing it and I feel so low in myself like I don’t even know who I am anymore. My boyfriend is quite understanding as I found out that it is sexsomnia. I am scared to stay round my friends houses as I am unaware of what I could do. I used to sleep talk a lot and twitch in my sleep and also I can’t remember the last time I had a proper night sleep where I slept the whole way through. I just don’t know what to do, I’m scared to sleep next to my boyfriend as I feel like I can’t control myself. I will only touch myself and not him. Please if anyone has any advice I will really appreciate it. Thank you

    Same here. I don’t touch my husband, just myself. He swears it appears I’m awake and that I am aware of it, but I don’t. It is miserable.

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  40. James Says:

    I was cuddled up to my girlfriend and we both went to sleep. I wake up about 3 hours later on my knees naked and her pants are off and im just sitting there like what the hell! This has been the furthest any of the episodes have gone but i feel embarrassed and i feel like i hurt here.

    Her opinion is i hurt her and shes wondering if i was awake or not. Hell our cat woke me up worh its cold nose on my butt.

    We talked about it but i feel as thoivh pur relationship might be going south because of this episode… Hell she cant look at me has told me to srop touching here(like on the shoulder or holding her hand ect ect… Im at a loss for words over this because she seriously is my world and i love her to death.

    Any suggestions?

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  41. Tracy Says:

    My husband has recently started sleep sex and its causing problems in our marriage. We have a very good sex life normally but a few months ago we hit a rocky time arguments and we were both very stressed and upset but since then when we go to bed he falls asleep and then the talking moaning and sex in his sleep happens. He says he doesn’t remember anything. I feel exhausted and mentally drained and can’t see a bright future for us as I can’t cope anymore.

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  42. John Says:

    Paula: Why don’t you sleep with a diaphragm on to avoid
    pregnancy? Has it ever happened when you’re both asleep?

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  43. John Says:

    I want to have an experiment. Any couples that want to participate, do this… Stay without sex for a few days, sleep naked next to each other. Tell me whether sleep sex occured.

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  44. John Says:

    I had a ex of 13 years that would want it while sleeping….so erotic
    I am a heavy sleeper myself. Come put the nuts too me

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  45. Paul Says:

    Hello, All.

    I want to thank everyone for sharing all they have experience and what they know. I am a gay man and have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half.. last night I woke up to him “putting the moves on me”. We fooled around for awhile before we had intercourse. I was inside him when he woke and doesn’t believe that he ever did any of the instigating I experienced. I don’t know what to do because he feels sexually abused. Most of the stories are about the suffere doing th act of penetration or acting on themselves.

    Any one have any experience like this? Thank you so much in advance. Much appreciated.

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  46. John Says:

    A.J.:
    I’ve read most testimonials here but I don’t think there’s one where both partners experienced this behavior. So I might be the first one to post it.Both me and my wife sleep talk.She sleep walks sometimes. I have very erotic dreams every now and then.My wife tells me that some nights I have kissed and hugged her, which I don’t remember.Other nights she might be the one doing that.Well last night we both had sex while sleeping.It was initiated by her and I went along with it.It was real intense.I had an orgasm so I think that’s what woke me up.I was trying to figure out what just had happened when she asks me “did we just have sex?” and that’s when I realized we were both asleep while doing it. She asked if I had come, if she was moaning aloud, and more questions.I don’t remember all the details of how it went down except for we started grinding.She reached into my shorts, which have velcro in front, she pulled my penis throught that velcro opening and inserted into her.When we went at it the velcro was scratching my genitals and penus but I just kept going at it real hard.That’s how I know that I was asleep because awake I would have taken my sorts off and not allowed that discomfort. Any how, this is our first experience of sexsomnia.She was rather embarrased and confused.For me it was like something exiting but it also concerns me as I think I have experienced this before where I woke up touching or grinding up against other previous relationships. I could not sleep afterwards and now I’m having a crappy day at work since I only got two hours of sleep. =(

    Zup? Are you still with your wife?

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